Let’s list three facts:
# 1 – It has been observed & proven that action and reactions act in opposite direction in equal force (''To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction)
# 2 – A definitions is a means of limiting a subject – subject being any tangible / non tangible thing
# 3 – Relationships is humans’ way of describing how one associates self with others
Based on points above, isn’t it true that defining a relationship will actually create a pressure / tension in the opposite direction that will be waiting for a trigger point to bounce back. Trigger point is relative to variables like circumstances and individual. To me it more seems like a disaster waiting to occur!
Why is it so that we need to characterize the bonding and judge it and ultimately invent fallacies?
Why can’t we accept the very liquid form of relationships as it comes?
It is like water - it will easily adjust to the shape of the jar you try to capture it in. You will try to freeze it with characteristics; it will become fragile and tend to break…
Why do we have to be obliged to certain things or not do certain things cause relationship poses 'em on you?
Why can’t a relationship be just a relationship? Does water differentiate with other water? Water is just water – emotions are where relationships hail from and we should take them just as they come – why invent a disaster?
Well... i don't agree with 'relationship is like water' concept. I don't see any similarity between water and relationship. Water is a free element...not dependent on anything. Relationship is not free. It's something that happens between two or more people. It's more like a fragile string attaching people. If everyone starts pulling it in different directions..it's gonna break for sure. So its very important that everyone involved, is going in the same direction... that's why it becomes necessary to define some part of it and impose some rules.
ReplyDeleteI understand the need of personal space ... but then either you have to adjust your 'personal space' to match the requirements of the relationship or take the risk of getting one or both of them screwed.